Entertaining a Preschooler on a Transatlantic Flight

25/01/2015 by Jamie 12 Comments

Complete Preschool Carry-on Packing List

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Our flight from Seattle to Germany was was long, boring, miserable, and eventful. Trying to entertain a preschooler on a transatlantic flight can be very tricky!

With about eleven hours of flying time, I wanted to make sure my son had enough stuff to keep him occupied. But is there ever really enough for a bored, tired, anxious 3 year old to do when he has been up for 18 hours? Oh, the misery of being cooped up with a preschooler who won’t sleep, use the airplane bathroom, or stay quiet while everyone else is trying to sleep on the flight. Since my husband was already in Germany, my amazing Dad offered to accompany my son and me on the trip over.

We did have about 5 hours of peaceful bliss while he was enjoying the contents of what I packed for him, and before he was just too tired and restless. So, let me share what went well, and I’ll just pretend the rest of it never happened + 2 thumbs up+

Packing the Carryon

Ok, first I went out and bought about $50 worth of new toys and snacks. Yes, I know, shame on me, but if you had flown the flights I have, you would just nod along and say: Yes, good, $50 worth of new toys and snacks.

Then I took them all out of the packages (huge waste of space when packing a carryon) and wrapped them up to be opened on the plane. The brown paper wrapping was used for candy so I could let him open those ones after snacks throughout the flight.

Here’s a close up of some of the toys. I tried to get things that could be enjoyed quietly or take awhile to put together so the entertainment value would last.

My dad flies often and is accustomed to having all the perks and none of the lines. Sorry about the 40 minute wait for security, Dad. He kept turning around and saying: This is ridiculous! My son kept trying to escape by low crawling on the dirty airport tile. But he did get to ~~write his name~~ scribble on a luggage tag, which he was really proud of.

The Easy Hours

The first hour of the flight was spent enjoying the new games on his new LeapPad. (He opened it the night before so he could get the hang of how to play the games.)

And he enjoyed showing his bunny Lemmiwinks around our row.

Of course a 3 (and a half) year old can’t put an 18 piece transformer together all by himself, so my dad had to lend a hand. It was a good quiet activity and I’m glad we saved most of them for when the lights were dimmed so that everyone (but us) could get some sleep.

He loved opening up Marshall and his fire truck, and then getting to watch the show on the kindle – PAWS Patrol for the win!

The International Layover

We had a really short layover in Reykjavik, Iceland. After briefly falling asleep on the descent, he woke up SCREAMING bloody murder for the entire 20 minutes of landing. I think it was a perfect storm of having refused to use the bathroom for 8 hours, being midnight in the time zone we had been in, and just wanting to get the hell out of his seat belt. As we entered the airport in a dreamlike stupor, he threw up his hands, tears in his eyes and said: This isn’t Germany! followed by a pitiful sob. I got an empathetic laugh from a passerby, which gave me just enough gusto to carry the little screamer through customs and onto the next plane.

At that point I took him to the bathroom and insisted that he use it. While he screamed, I’m sure everyone on the plane thought I was beating him, but eventually he went, and the plane took off.

There was a beautiful sunrise, and even though none of us had really slept, it was exciting that we were almost in Germany!

He was out cold for the last hour of the short(er) flight. Actually we were the last people to walk down the stairs of the plane and board the bus to the terminal. He slept all the way to baggage claim. Why couldn’t he sleep like that on the flight?!

But as miserable as those few dark hours were, we made it to Germany and I will never have to fly with a 3 year old for eleven hours ever again. +fingers crossed+

Have you ever entertained a preschooler on a transatlantic flight?

A Successful Flight (Minus the Swearing)

03/11/2014 by Jamie 67 Comments

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Melissa & Doug Felt Friends Stickers: These are so fun to make!

Kindle Fire for Kids: A tablet of some kind is basically a must for long flights with young kids. Bonus points for this kid-proof case and easy return/exchange policy for when your kid drops it on the tarmac.

Washi tape: Totally removable tape that you can put all over the plane walls, windows, and tray table. Win!

Mickey Mouse Clubhouse figurines: Any small toys that can stand easily on the tray table will do. I recommend getting these for cheap at a thrift store, but if you’re in a pinch, click on the link and grab these ones!

Check out this awesome kids tray! It’s already clean and will keep toys and snacks contained.

A Successful Flight (Minus the Swearing)

I spent a lot of time preparing for our flight from Oahu to Phoenix. My backpack was full of tricks and snacks for entertaining my son. When our row was called to board at the airport, my husband was standing near the line and motioned for us to come over. My son was struggling to get his backpack on and mumbled, “Dammit.” My husband called from about 15 feet away, “What?” And my son hollers back “DAMMIT!” The lady sitting next to me gave me a look with her eyebrows raised. So we were off to a good start.

He had fun perusing the safety info and helping Daddy get his seat belt on. We bought some new t.v. shows he’s never seen on the Kindle Fire and rented the movie Up. The movie was a big fail – he just didn’t have the attention span for a movie, but he spent about 2 hours browsing the new t.v. shows, so that was a win.

I tried something new on this flight. I always worry that we are bothering the people in front of us when my son is rough opening and shutting his tray and when he “accidentally” kicks the seat in front of him. So when we first sat down in our seats I got the attention of the man sitting in front of my son. “Sir? Hello this is my son behind you and he’s going to try really hard not to touch your seat, but if he does feel free to turn around and tell him – I don’t like that!” The two ladies sitting with him laughed and he seemed pretty good-natured about it. Plus I didn’t have to be paranoid that the man was fuming every time the seat was bumped. I’m thinking if we started annoying him at any point he would have been comfortable enough to at least turn around and make a joke about it.

Also, do yourself a favor and get some Kids Headphones. These are some of the best customer rated kids headphones on the market!

Here is one of my goodie bags filled with wrapped surprises. It made it through security, but there’s always a chance that they will have to open the gifts if the x-rays make them suspicious of something.

(Side note: I love these water bottles for kids!)

Most of the small wrapped gifts for this flight were figurines from the Goodwill and small pieces of candy. I also found some cool washi tape from Amazon that is reusable and kinda feels like the sticky part of a post it note.

We had a lot of fun putting together a lego spiderman car. It was a small miracle we didn’t lose one of the tiny pieces on the floor of the plane. Only downside was the plane was dark and mostly quiet by the time we were putting it together and he was just SO excited and kept yelling out with glee. Eh, better than crying.

(Another side note… get some of these Little Animal Toys: Again, go to a thrift store for these little guys, but it’s hard to beat this deal on Amazon for new ones!)

So, when we were waiting for our row’s turn to exit the plane a lady tapped me on the shoulder and said “Your parenting was a real pleasure to witness.” I couldn’t tell if she was joking, so I said, “He wasn’t too loud?” (Because he totally was loud most of the time.) She said, “Well kids are loud, but you guys did a wonderful job with him.” So I’m willing to bet she wasn’t the same lady who heard him yell DAMMIT as we were boarding.

As we left the airplane the pilot was just exiting the cockpit and asked him if he wanted some wings. He was so stinkin’ proud of those wings! He has worn them quite a few times since then :)

So at the end of the day it was a very successful flight! Three and a half is a whole new ball game for 6+ hour flights – so much easier than the 12-24 month age. We have one more long flight before we reach our new home, but I have a few more new ideas up my sleeve for that one. And miles to go before we sleep!

How cute is this leather kids backpack with a plane stitched on?

What are your favorite toys/games/snacks to pack in order to have a successful flight with a little one?

8 Tips for Airplane Travel with Kids

06/07/2014 by Jamie 32 Comments

Toddler’s First Flight Packing List

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This is an adorable lift-the-flap book perfect for airplane travel!

Stephen Joseph Airplane Backpack for Toddlers

If you don’t want the crayons rolling off the tray table, try some of these Triangular Crayons!

Or better yet, get one of these foldable travel trays for kids! (It also comes in blue.)

Melissa & Doug Reusable Sticker Pad: Vehicles – 165+ Reusable Stickers

100 Pipe Cleaners – Assorted Neon Colors

There is a short list of things that keep infants calm while flying… sucking, soothing, sleeping, etc. When we moved to Hawaii in 2012, my son was 11 months old and I prepared for the 6 hour flight as if he were still a baby (bottles of milk, his favorite blanket, a few familiar board books). It was a disaster. He was bored, over-tired but couldn’t sleep, and all he wanted to do was crawl and bounce. By the end of the flight my husband and I made a pact not to fly off the island of Oahu until he was years older. But then my sister set a date for her wedding in Seattle a few months later, so I went to work researching how I could make 6+ hour flights more bearable. And now I have these 8 tips for airplane travel with kids to share!

First let’s talk about temperaments… Is your child good at sitting still or does he never stop moving? Will the loud noises scare him or help drown out his loud voice? You know your kid(s) best: some of these idea will work better than others, and you will probably know fairly quickly which ones. Others you may need to try out for yourself. These tips and tricks will be most helpful for airplane travel with kids who are 10 months to three years old.

For babies under 10 months I recommend this ebook from Lucie’s List.

1. Novelty is King!

New books, new candy, new (small) toys: these things will get you far. In the picture above right, my son is so tired and just DONE with the flight, but surprise! Here’s another shiny new book you’ve never seen! New experiences are like crack for toddlers. Whatever your kid is into these days, try to find some cheap, small versions that he or she has never played with before: matchbox cars, my little ponies, velcro sticks, finger puppets, etc.

Novelty in the food department is hit or miss at this age. I don’t recommend giving completely new food to your child on a flight HOWEVER, a surprise treat can be a life saver. A variation on a current fave, like a different flavor of Cheerios, or a new candy that you can slow play (skittles, nerds, or M&Ms) can buy you more time (which is the whole point of everything when you are flying with one or more kids). Make sure to bring lots of protein-filled snacks to make up for the sugar and to keep their bellies feeling full. For those that are younger, fruit pouches are easy snacks. Just make sure they don’t over-squeeze and get it all over the place. If you’re not careful it will inevitably end up all over your shirt and their pants – just the way it goes.

2. Prepare Your Heart for a Marathon

It’s going to be a challenge. If you are used to flying solo for work or with your spouse on tropical getaways, this is going to be a completely different experience. I know you know this, but you will still feel that pang of unfairness while you are desperately doing finger puppet voices and your neighbors are gleefully browsing the in-flight magazine. You are probably not going to be able to read a book or watch your own movie, unless you have more than a 1:1 ration of parents to kids. Creating excitement about the flight, reading new books aloud, trying the new candy, enjoying new toys, these things will make your child feel excited too. Unless you have a little angel child, your first flight with a 10 month old or older might make you want to bash your head against the wall of the airplane. Knowing this ahead of time makes it easier on everyone.

3. Wrap or Keep Surprises Hidden

One thing that worked REALLY well for us (and my friend Lynn) is to wrap small toys and treats you don’t want your child to see yet, and then dole them out one by one, which they can unwrap like it’s their birthday! You can wrap them in wrapping paper with plenty of tape. Or if you are worried about security finding your surprises questionable and demanding to unwrap them, you can use those paper sacks wine is wrapped in at the grocery store. You always risk security having to open up your wrapped items if they look questionable going through security. The key is to keep them out of sight, but wrapping them also gives them more stuff to do in-flight.

4. Games, Apps, and Movies

It’s no surprise that kids love electronics. Even for those of you who restrict usage normally, having a new movie to watch or downloading a new game on your phone or iPad can buy you a lot of time. You might want to invest in kids headphones that are made to fit their little heads. Some even have noise canceling features that keep the decibel level down in the loud plane. I recommend trying out different headphones beforehand. Some kids are ok with ear buds, but my son got extremely frustrated that they kept falling out, and screamed in frustration every time he re-situated himself and one would fall out of his ear. Not ideal. He also hated the shiny new kids headphones we bought for him, so sometimes you can’t win. In the photo above left (16 months) we played a movie with the sound playing just enough to hear it. Clearly my husband was more into Toy Story than my son. In the other photo he is ok with the ear buds (2.5 years old).

5. I Spy and Other Games

On our recent flight to Kauai we played a game where we tried to find dolphins, sharks, turtles, etc. in the ocean below as we came in for final descent. At about 300-400 feet in the air, the lady in front of me (who was listening in) exclaimed “I see a turtle, I really do!” Sure, lady. These “look and find” kind of games are especially fun for kids (I’m not sure why), even when he isn’t going to find many of the items I mention. I also included things to look for that he would find on the plane. For the older kids you could play a scavenger hunt or easy card games.

7. Plan Flight Times Carefully

To red-eye or not to red-eye? For those that have good sleepers (sleep anywhere, don’t have to be lying down, don’t mind random bright lights or loud noises) booking a red-eye flight might be a good idea. For those of you with picky sleepers or those that have kids that get extra grumpy when they are over-tired, I would recommend a morning flight (right after they wake up) or an afternoon flight (after they have had at least one nap).

8. Pack Light and Smart

To keep all those baby/kid things organized, I pack things into both large and small ziplock bags. A couple of years ago I found this blog that showed outfits packed into individual gallon ziplock bags and I have been doing it ever since. Throw one of those outfit bags into your carry-on for when they dump their juice over their head to protest not being able to move from their seat.

Some of the following items I have had great personal success with. Others have been recommended to me by my friends in the advice section below.

Reusable stickers – these can be used in a sticker book and on the plane walls and windows. You might have to shrug off a dirty look from a flight attendant, because she doesn’t realize they will come right off, but let’s be honest it won’t be the only dirty look you get on the flight!
“Lift the flap” books – only books they haven’t seen before so that each page and flap is a surprise. You can get these at the library or thrift store for very cheap.
Color Wonder Marker and Paper – These markers will only mark on the special paper
Triangle crayons
Empty sippy cup or thermos – to be filled on the plane
Pipe cleaners – These can be played with in so many ways! Also fun for the parents. For the toddlers that are still putting things in their mouth you just need to be careful as the edges are metal and pointy.
Fruit pouches
Suckers and gum – anything they can suck on that will help pop their ears.
iTunes gift card – for new apps, movies, music depending on the age
Kids headphones – this is definitely something you need to try on and practice with before the flight.

Other items to pack in your carry-on:

Baby wipes
Small towel or old burp cloth for inevitable spills
Phone charger – for when your kid uses up your battery and it’s dead on landing
Empty ziplock or wet bag to put wet clothes or towels in after cleaning up spills.

6. If All Else Fails

There were times when my son was just DONE and wouldn’t stop whining, thrashing, and trying to take blows at the passenger sitting next to me. Other times, all he wanted to do was kick the seat in front of him or creepily put his hand on my neighbor’s knee (!?), that’s when it’s time to remember that ONE DAY you will no longer be on this flight and you will be happy. Count to 100, avoid eye contact with other passengers, and take deep breaths. It also doesn’t hurt to have one emergency surprise for your child that you save for such occasions.

Other Things to Consider

Car Seat? Some people like to bring their car seat along in the plane and have their toddler sit in it for the flight. If you do this I recommend having one parent or travel companion go on the plane ahead of you to get it buckled in properly. I never went that route because my son would have screamed bloody murder if I had strapped him in. If you are flying on a red-eye flight and you have a good car seat sleeper… well then it might work for you.

Note for my military friends: My friend Michelle swears by Space A travel with her toddler. She says the engine is loud and most of the military aircrafts have room in the middle for kids to play, or lay down to sleep. This way of traveling has it’s drawbacks (not knowing if you will make it on a flight, not knowing if you will make it on a flight this week, etc.), but might be worth a try if you are eligible!

Here is more advice on airplane travel with kids from my well-traveled friends!

For the Younger Toddlers

Abi B: Fruit pouches… this has saved me so many times. Also the ergo. They didn’t (let me keep him in the ergo during take off and landing) but I could have him in it during the flight so all I did was take off the arm straps and put it back on once we were at cruising altitude.

Lynn W: I’ve traveled with Vivian since she was 5 months old. For the first year (3 flights) I just nursed her during take off and she fell asleep and slept most of the way!

General Advice

Amber C: Traveling can be stressful enough. So my motto for the day is “pick your battles.” If it’s not life threatening to the child or anyone else, I don’t care.  Also triangle-shaped crayons that won’t roll away.

Lynn W: For a toddler…lots of snacks! I go to the dollar store and get some new fun stuff and wrap them so she gets to open “presents” on the plane (did this for traveling a long distance in the car also). Suckers and crayons are a must have always in my purse.

Kelsy M: New things on the flight that the kiddo hasn’t seen yet, we don’t bother traveling with a car seat anymore (it got lost one time). We just rent one through the rental car place or borrow from family, SNACKS!!

Stephanie E: Just traveled to San Diego with a 2 and 4-year-old. I took a $15 iTunes card and bought new TV shows and downloaded DVDs to the iPad without the kids knowing. Packed a bag with kids favorite toys and coloring items. Watched iPad for first half and got toys out till we landed. The whole element of surprise was key. ‪

Jacquie L: Change of clothes and simple food and new toys.

‪Teresa R: If they are old enough give them chewing gum or something to keep in their mouth. It will keep their ears from popping .

For older kids

‪Brittany J: Request kids meals, we always let our kids pick out a special toy/coloring book, snack etc. before so they were excited about it. Now that they are older, we download new games or movies on their iPods or tablets and they’re good to go. ‪

Sara G: I always got a new DVD/movie just for the plane. Also that was the only time I would let Grace have a lollipop or gum.

For Hardcore Flights (12+ hours, non-pressurized, no bathrooms)

Abuk: I would ask what type of plane. The commercial or small aircraft (w/out restrooms) first. Each child must carry on their own bag of goodies it keeps us light – if we are in a non-pressurized plane this involves water for the trip, and an empty water bottle for bathroom breaks in addition to a small sack for motion sickness. The remaining space we pack as we would for a commercial flight. Our motto with our four is less is more! We let each child choose 1 toy to go in, we chose one activity (think stickers and a piece of paper for the youngsters) and lots of snacks in small size bags/ziplocks or tinfoil. Then they have the adventure of opening the item, nibbling a few pieces and discovering what is in the other bags/packets. We encourage our girls to read/listen to books on tapes (they are older) so they don’t get motion sickness. For long flights (over 12 hours of fly time) we attach a “sleeping blanket” for layovers that they can throw on the floor and make into a bed…or if we have to overnight in an airport for some reason (has happened more than I’d like to admit. ) If you are traveling internationally, request a kid’s meal (most airlines have them upon request) and a bassinet seat so the child (under a certain weight limit) can sleep lying down on the plane. These must be requested by calling the airline… Flying from the states out I have yet to find one that doesn’t provide this. Also bring each child appropriate headphones that can sit on their ears if they will be watching entertainment the ones airlines provide are often too small and child becomes frustrated. For longer flights we break it up by setting markers. “Ok, at ________ time we will do stickers… at _______time it is movie time or book time while I read, at _______time we will use the bathroom or walk the halls for long flights.” This helps even our youngest break a long flight into manageable chunks and items to look forward to while giving them freedom to fill in the time between the next activity with something appropriate to do.

Cheryl K: New toys, the kids Galaxy Tablet was amazing on our last trip. Snacks for long flights and I request the kids meal. I also try to choose red-eye flights for long haul flights so the kid sleeps through most of the flight and isn’t bored sitting for 17+hrs.

Do you have any advice for airplane travel with kids? I would LOVE to hear them!!

6 Reasons to Travel With Your Kids

23/06/2014 by Abuk 11 Comments

(This is a guest post from an old friend who travels extensively with her family. Bio and blog are at the end!)

We always leave an imprint wherever we travel. We have four kids under eight and have lived in four countries, and travelled a lot within each of these places. We get the customary glares on some flights, smiles on others, and experience our share of stress as we adapt to new places and experiences as a family, but if I had a do-over in life I’d choose to travel again with my kids in a heartbeat. Jamie asked me to share with you why we travel with our kids and why it is important, so I thought I’d better introduce myself.

I am a mother of five littles all under eight. One of our charges died at birth so that leaves four clinging to my skirts for most long journeys. We have lived in four countries and are currently residing in North Africa. We’ve lived in “the bush” (literally) and the city and we love our family, and travelling with our kids. As is the case with most activities there is nothing virtuous and beneficial about travel in and of itself, but rather what you do with the activity of travel that gives it benefit (or not) to your family and children.

We often step back and ask big overarching questions when we look to travel or move somewhere, such as why are we doing this and what benefits do we want to encourage from this activity? I’ve heard it said it is easy to aim at a wall, throw a dart and then draw a bullseye around it… but if you care about what goals you achieve, choose those first, or draw your bullseye before you throw your dart. This step must be done in order to gain the most out of your travels (or any activity).

So why do we travel with our kids? I am glad you asked because believe it or not it is not to get as many glares as possible as we board an airplane (as exciting as this is).

1) Our travels have made us better parents.

We are not limited to view parenting only in the way we have seen it modeled growing up. We have seen many examples of how parenting is done, in different cultural context and in different places so we can find our “niche” in the parenting spectrum that doesn’t have strict boundaries to our passport culture. This has also helped us parent for our kids and not to please others. It is impossible to parent and please everyone, in one culture we are parenting too strictly and not giving our kids freedom to be kids, in another we offer a lack of supervision, so the need to please is replaced with the need to be consistent with our boundaries and rules (or should be) because we simply cannot parent to please every culture.

2) It has given our kids a better understanding of what is interpreted through a cultural lens.

Many children that grow up only in North Africa assume that you are snubbing a person if you do not show friendship by holding arms or linking hands as you walk down the road (male to male and female to female), while in North America such expressions of affection are viewed as a pronouncement of sexual preference. Our children have seen that many actions are interpreted through the cultural framework that person is exposed to and are less likely to jump to conclusions based on their cultural frame of reference.

3) Our kids are comfortable with the unknown and it doesn’t stop them from participating.

This lesson has been hardest for my second born, but often my children do not know what is being said or how to respond to certain situations due to language and cultural barriers. But they have learned this shouldn’t inhibit them from experiencing the culture. They have seen that by observation they can still participate and interact with others different than them. Language no longer becomes a barrier to engagement.

4) Our kids are better equipped to control their attitude and outlook regardless of circumstances.

Travel has a loss of control associated with it. The planes are delayed, the living conditions are different than expectations, the driver charges more than expected. Our children have seen us handle, well and not so well, the many elements that our outside our expectations and have learned that while we cannot change what happens to us, we can control how we respond. The other day my six year old proclaimed, “oh no the traffic is terrible!” She then followed it by saying, “but if we miss our class I think I will choose to not cry.” She had learned to focus on what she could control and not on what she couldn’t.

5) Our kids are happy with just about anything –imagination is increased.

Oh if only you could see the hours of joy my children have over an old tire, or how they can transfer soda cans into elaborate baby dolls and cars. Mud becomes clay for building houses and a piece of paper can become a playhouse. They have been separated often from their possessions and toys and have still found things to do and play with. The pyramids become an awesome playground, and the catacombs something to explore. They have played for hours with children without any toys, and have travelled on airplanes for hours that are not pressurized and too noisy to watch films so they know the joys of imagination.

6) They will try just about anything — and they know themselves.

Slimy okra, is actually delicious once you get used to it, and they discovered seeing a fishes eye when you eat it makes it just as tasty. We have a saying it takes 5-10 tries to like something… what once was not enjoyed after time can become a favorite. You can do your own henna at home, roasting corn over coals is so tasty, and playing lido can result in hours of laughter. They are very likely to try new things in the hopes that they will discover a new treasure, while on the same note they know that no many how many times they ride a camel they don’t like it when he stands and sits down, and that avoiding dead animals on the street is beneficial to their olfactory senses.

One of my passions is helping folks understand that travel itself is not a virtue, but what you do with it can result in good things. So will you join me in discussion. I have said why I love travelling with kids and the benefits we’ve achieved, but we haven’t discussed how we get the benefits or work toward these virtues. How do you go about gaining the good out of traveling, redeeming it for its virtues and not its vices? Perhaps I’ll be back to guest post another time on my thoughts on this but I want to hear yours!

At the end of our journey in life it is not about how many languages my children speak, or how many places we’ve been to, it’s about knowing what we want to get out of travels and taking steps to achieve those goals. Happy travelling! (or as they say here…تروح وتيجي بالسلامة)

Abuk currently resides in North Africa where she homeschools her brood, seeks to achieve mastery of the local language, tries new foods, embraces new cultures and to see the sights around her with her kids at every opportunity. You can read more about her and her family’s adventures here.